Travel Therapy For Loss of Spouse.

How Travel Can Help Heal Loss Of Spouse?

Loss of spouse or a partner is a very difficult life event. And for those who survives parting with someone they loved and built life together, this presents a very challenging transition and an opportunity to recast the value of one's lifetime of relationships and connections with others.

Loss of a spouse may come unexpectedly or we may approach inevitability of losing spouse gradually in the middle of diminishing health conditions. Whether being prepared for loss overtime or not, the reality of it is the same — a bridge-less chasm between us and them. But our life still continues and even though it is deeply affected, it could be lived with dignity, authentic expression, loving and compassion, restored personal power and deeper sense of purpose.

Yet it cannot be experienced without inner transformation, an inward focus that rises awareness of what is taking place inside ourselves right now. There is a traditional belief: "time heals all wounds", but there's a way to work actively with our loss of spouse, with full presence of consciousness to accept and live with that which cannot be reversed.

In view of life as journey, a healing application of travel could be used to deal with loss of spouse, partner or a loved one. 
Our life with a spouse is a complex tapestry of physical, mental and emotional experience. It was built overtime with acquisition of material things together, sharing a living place, memories created around activities and emotions that built an internal space that our spouse occupied in our consciousness. 
Even though we look around and we will not find our loving partner around the house, but our memory reflected in objects that belonged to them and a space where they lived will bring up inside of us an acute feeling of absence — an attachment, the energy that is still active in our mind.

Healing Practices For Therapeutic Travel

Creating therapeutic trip to deal with a loss of spouse could be very effective in restoring vitality, clarity and emotional freedom to live with meaning and gratitude. 
Going travel with purpose of healing even for a short period creates a space, a discontinuity in focus on attachment which is a psychological relationship to external reality. It is supported in large part by environment imbued with memories of living with a loved one. 

This approach is not suggested as a form of distraction, rather as a way to awaken our perception to reality of life. Travel with self-healing intention creates a distance for a perspective and a deeper understanding of your individual and collective humanity. It may help us to realize that our personal loss is also experienced by others and we are not alone in it.

Going away from our habitual place of living and predictable functioning gives us a possibility for a long look at Who Am I? and free us from limitations of deluded identity, where our ideas of reality are confused for reality itself and cause us much frictions, resistance and suffering.

Working with a Loss of Spouse — Grieving Without Despair.

Acknowledge What You Feel
Find a space and time to recognize what are you feeling. Take time to acknowledge the most subtle fears, projections and judgments that loss of spouse brings into your reality. Among others:

  • Psychic Void. A sense of balance, a counterpoint of your opinions, attitudes and beliefs reflected in a person with whom you shared most intimate moments is extinguished.

  • Attachment To Memory. Focusing on memory of spouse as a source of your life's happiness and meaning.

  • Despair of being alone. Projecting into the future from the position of the memory of being with a spouse, there was sense of permanence in the way of life and now the prospect of being alone may bring up a fear of abandonment and pointlessness of continuing on.

  • Unexpressed Feelings. There might be an energy of thoughts and emotions that we have kept from releasing. For the reasons of feeling misunderstood or hurt we kept them from sharing with the person that we lost. 
    We don't have to unload feelings face to face, it is done in privacy of your environment. Releasing unexpressed feelings eliminates blocks that hold our creativity and energy from sufficiently moving forward.

  • Judgments. There could be judgments held against yourself for missed opportunities of having better quality or more harmonious relationship with a spouse that now are beyond reach. There might be hurt based in seeing this loss through feelings of betrayal.

As much as possible allow yourself to experience your internal reality of a loss in your unique way. Allow your heart to open and embrace the feelings as they come unpacked, bare to the field of your awareness.

Reframe Perception – Find Meaning and Optimism
Another important step in dealing with a loss of spouse is to heal one-sided attitude toward what is happening. 
Healing loss of spouse is a challenging step that can't occur without conscious direction of our attention. In a midst of disruption and emotional grief, it prods you to shift perception of vacancy of a spouse's presence. It is a metaphysical step outside of your frame of mind engulfed in emotional suffering fueled by focus on what "I will never have" again. 
Shift into releasing relationship with departed spouse could be promoted by contemplating these attitudes:

  • Forgiveness. To restore your soul's flow and vitality, it is necessary to release bondage of judgment or hurt associated with departed spouse. Judgment is a thought form cast upon the flow of your essence, a perpetual movement of experience.Compassionate Self-Forgiveness is a way to break from limiting bondage that we hold ourselves or others in due to judgment or limited perception of reality. It is a powerful healing process that is based on application of love and compassion for oneself. Healing application of Compassionate Self-Forgiveness provides restoration to fullness and freedom lost due to separation and pain caused by judgment.

  • Find Gratitude and Value. Step back and look at your life you had with your spouse. Contemplate and define how positively this relationship affected your life. 
    Think specifically about what opportunities for learning, love, intimacy and growth a relationship with your spouse brought for you to experience. Focus on with intention to turn on feeling of gratitude. Amplify it.
    Now that one phase of life ended, look what kind of value you may find in your new way of being alone. How would you use this life event as an opportunity for learning and growth?

  • Impermanence and Uniqueness of Each Soul. Perhaps it is time to reflect on a slightly deeper nature of existence. The truth that every thing and a part of our experience is in transition, everything is constantly changing including ourselves. 
    This is taking place whether we acutely aware of it or not; some things like our attention and thoughts are changing very rapidly, while Earth continents and stars take a long time. 
    So is everything that is put together is in a process of falling apart. All our relationships will eventually end with one of the party ending its presence according to their unique co-created destiny. Every human being is a co-creator of their destiny — a combination of consequences of mental, verbal and physical actions. 
    And we can't know which part of a contract in their evolving destiny our relationship played.
    What to do? The aim is to become grateful for all the opportunities you had together, cherish, allow to grieve the immediacy of their absence and release.

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